There was a time when I was sexually assaulted, groped, and harassed by a supervisor several years ago. I desperately tried to get people to listen to me, to believe me. I consistently heard that he was a ‘good guy’, a ‘good pastor’ and would never do such a thing. My words and description of… Continue reading “When Words Aren’t Enough Proof”
Note that this blog is somewhat honest and graphic and a trigger warning is advised for those whom discussions and descriptions of sexual assault affects. Last week several politicians and others claimed that if Dr. Christine Blasey Ford's claim of sexual assault was in any way true, then she should have gone to the police… Continue reading Why Don’t Women Report? Let Me Break It Down For You.
Do you ever wake up and feel like you can take on the world? You look around at your life and projects and think, “I’m crushing this thing called life?” In that moment you are self-assured and a ‘put-together adult.’ Then you pick up your phone or laptop, log on to social media, and suddenly… Continue reading The Jealousy of Social Media
“It’s not that big of a deal.” “Just let it go.” “Stop rocking the boat.” “Maybe you should wait until you’re fully ordained to say anything.” “It wasn’t that bad.” I’ve heard all these things. I’ve heard each of these sentences regarding a male United Methodist clergy’s sexual harassment or treatment of me. Last week,… Continue reading #CHURCHTOO, The Catholic Church, and Willow Creek
“I don’t know if we should think about that, we don’t know what will happen in 2019.” These words are everywhere in United Methodist circles. If you get a group of United Methodists together, in a matter of minutes the conversation will undoubtedly turn to General Conference 2019. As a clergy couple with an infant,… Continue reading February 2019 and the Illusion of Uncertainty
God’s forgiveness is a concept that I simultaneously love and hate. I want God to forgive my sins, mistakes, and shortcomings; I count on grace. However, the fact that God offers forgiveness freely to those who have harmed me drives me nuts. I was once in a toxic romantic relationship and his words cut like… Continue reading “Forgive Those That Trespass Against Us: But Not Letting Them Trespass Again”
I recently met Brenna through the magic of the internet and through a mutual friend. I was looking to meet other women who are called to speak about sexual assault. I checked out her website and felt like I already knew her and we are destined to be life long friends. Her story is different… Continue reading Brenna Lakeson Guest Blog!